Answering my own question here… seems like a problem between the site and gmail (or at least some gmail accounts).
I updated the email on my account here to a brand new yahoo email address and the notifications started flowing in. Now I can’t change it back to a gmail address though as the activation-email you need for that doesn’t come through either of course. It’s not caught in the spam folder, the messages get lost somewhere before Google deposits them in the mailbox Problem with the smtp sender reputation of bangkokladyboys.net?